'Get extra good locks': Entitled sister wants to run daycare out of brother's house despite not paying rent

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JR Atkinson • Writer and Editor
Mar 24, 2024 1:00 PM EDT

Living with family can be a beautiful thing, but it can also be the most difficult thing you do together. In my experience, it's so much easier to get along with your family if you don't live with them. You can take your time away, engage with them when you want to, and you don't have to worry about sharing space. If you need to, you can return to your own peaceful dwelling and forget about family drama. Then visiting family becomes a fun occasion, not just the dreary every day. 

But it's also wonderful to live with family. You get to share quotidian moments rather than only seeing them when there's something special happening. It's all in the balance, and as ever, the grass is always greener on the other side. But there comes a tipping point to living with family. The creator of this recent Reddit post is certainly reaching that point. And commenters had to jump in to help him out. 

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    Take your mother's and sister's silence as a gift Play Da
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    920 r/AmltheAsshole u/Independent-Box-44 17h • AITA for telling my parents and my pregnant sister that I will not babyproof my area of the house and saying that I will be locking them out instead?
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    My parents live in the in-law suit of my house. They pay rent to help me cover the mortgage but the house is completely mine. Their rent is $600 a month. That includes all utilities including internet and streaming services.
    via u/Independent-Box-44
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    My older sister is pregnant again, yay, and she needs a place to stay as her baby daddy bailed out and moved back to Romania without her. My parents agreed to let her stay with them. They did not ask me but, like I said, they pay rent and can do as they wish with their living area.
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    My parents have full run of my house except for my bedroom and my office. My dad likes to putter in the garage and plays with my dog. My mom likes to bake in my kitchen and work in the garden. The basement has a kitchen but it is small and mine is just better all around.
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    Nope, they want me to babyproof my levels of the house. I asked why I would need to do this as the kids would 100% NOT be in my area. My mom said that it would not be fair to keep the kids cooped up in the basement all day. I said that there was a huge yard, and sunroom for them to spend time in if they really wanted. My sister said that she couldn't spend all her time cramped up like that with three kids. I asked when she found out she was having twins. She shut up. I dragged it out of them tha
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    This was when I said that I would be taking the keys to my area back from my parents and I was also going to change the locks. I said that I agreed to let my parents live with me to help them out. They agreed to let her move in because she is an irresponsible wench that can't understand birth control. I never agreed to let her use my house as a day home. I know I do not want three kids here along with four adults. Well three adults and a pregnant dumbass. (I thought this but did not say it)
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    My mom is mad that I am going to lock them out of my area but my dad understands. The thing is I would let him keep a key but my mom would get it from him and she would give it to my sister. I said I would leave the garage lock the same and that was good enough for him.
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    My mom and my sister are upset and giving me the silent treatment. My mom got my dad to ask me if they paid for the insurance if my sister could watch her friend's kid. I agreed but I did say that they should get my sister to pay it.
    via u/Independent-Box-44
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    Locurilla 16h NTA but you may have to reconsider this whole arrangement. You know over time this will become a mess for you. Your mum, sister and kids WILL take over your space and it will be very hard to rectify after they are here. Ask your parents to move out, although I feel sorry for your dad
    via u/Locurilla
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    Independent-Box-44 OP 16h • Locks are changed. I will not bend or break on this.
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    FeuerroteZora • 16h Enthusiast [5] Is there a lease, or is this all just an informal agreement? If you're going to let them live there, look into what tenants' rights are in your area. You may be ok bc you live there as well, but you really need to know the legal lay of the land because your mom and sister absolutely will do their damnedest to invade your space and stay there, and especially with kids living in the home, you might find yourself in a position where you can't get your space back,
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    Independent-Box-44 OP 16h • We have a legal lease agreement ... 2.9k SonataSprings • 16h If you have a formal lease, unless it's stated otherwise, you should be able to prohibit them from adding any tenants without your permission
    via u/Independent-Box-44 & u/SonataSprings
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    NTA... Live-Championship699 • 16h Technically speaking, by blocking off your areas you are technically making your areas baby proofed. I tip my hat to you good sir!
    via u/Live-Championship699
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    Independent-Box-44 OP • 16h OMG I must tell them that. Thank you.
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    Resolute Muse • 17h Pooperintendant [51] Dont do it! Who will be cleaning up after the kids, what are you going to do when 1 kid becomes 2, then 3? Who will be refilling your pantry when all the snacks, the milk, the juice etc, vanish because the kids need to eat something? Who will be repairing the damage that kids kind of just do? What happens when your sister says "oh I just need to run an errand" and you become the default childcare for several hours? How exactly do you expect to get her out
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    NewtoFL2 17h . Colo-rectal Surgeon [32] NTA, but you need to get a lawyer. You will never be able to get rid of your sister. This will turn into a nightmare. These rugrats will be running all over the house. How will you get them out when you get annoyed with them (and I say when not if(
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    bamf1701 16h Craptain [162] NTA. Your title really undersold the situation. As the title holder to the property, you should have been advised about your sister's plans, your parents did not have the authority to say "yes" to her plans. Before you say "yes" to the insurance thing about the babysitting, make sure you have an ironclad agreement with all parties about what is acceptable and what isn't - especially what parts of the house the kids are allowed in. And get it in writing and reviewed by
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    Space JesuslsHere • 16h Aficionado [14] Be real here. They're 100% not going to get the right insurance, with the right coverage level, and keep it up to date. Plus, evicting your sister with a newborn is going to be a legal nightmare. And let's be honest with ourselves, people this entitled will put you in a situation where you need, rather than want them gone. NTA. But have everyone sign a month to month lease and get extra good locks if you're determined to learn the hard way.
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    Extension_Camel_3844 • 16h Oh dear. You are not just going to have get additional insurance, you are going to have to get certified as a day care and you are going to have get licensed and get a business license as well. How is your non- working, pregnant free loading sister going to cover those costs? Nope. No way. No how.
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    Lanky-Jello-1801 • 17h NTA. You are more than kind to let them use your sunroom and garden. Take your mother's and sisters silence as a gift. Change your locks and keep those keys to yourself. Why your mom and sister think they are entitled to your house is beyond me. Feel free to use my favorite sayings, "You will get NOTHING and like it!".
    via u/Lanky-Jello-1801

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